As humans, we are innately driven to seek out acceptance and understanding from one another. Our voices grow louder, not always because our words must be heard, but because our hearts must be. We are fortunate when we encounter a situation where another person recognizes our heart’s intent. The success of reaching our goals is one thing, the recognition of the moments that mattered along the way from another person has the potential to make our heart soar.
A couple of weeks ago, I had the privilege of sitting down with the local arts and entertainment reporter for the Peace Arch News, Alex Browne. It was a delightful hour spent discussing history, historical fiction, and Becoming Mrs. Smith, my debut historical fiction title that was released in October 2017. Our mutual appreciation for history and how it relates to the human condition was at the crux of our conversation.
The interview could have easily been two colleagues meeting over tea as historical data of the past threaded through our conversation. I thoroughly enjoyed the time we spent during the interview. It is however, in reading Alex’s words that my heart feels as if it has been heard. You can read the full article here at the paper’s online affiliate The Surrey Now.
Human connections can be as simple as a smile shared between two people or as complex as a lifesaving action. The vastness with which humans connect is limitless, yet the simplicity of a connection ripples through our lives adding value, joy, and hope. This holiday season, I encourage you to seek out and connect with others. Hint, hint… random acts of kindness are a super, quick and easy way to make those connections meaningful
You might choose to make yourself more aware and courteous when maneuvering through traffic. Or perhaps, you will pay attention to the mother juggling packages and small children and offer her a helping hand. These small gestures have a deep impact on everyone involved in the interaction. Consider how you feel when someone holds a door open for you. It feels nice, right? You feel a sense of uplifting and gratitude. Furthermore, science tells us, you are more likely to do something kind for another person as you go forward.
Alternatively, consider a time when your hands have been full. Someone immediately in front of you walks through a door. Without a thought or a look back, the door closes in front of you. Disgruntled, and annoyed, you re-position what you are carrying and managed to open the door with a slight amount of struggle. Interestingly, if that person had not been present, you would have managed opening the door and your mood wouldn’t have dipped down into the gutter. But, because there was a potential human connection of courtesy and kindness that was left undone, you felt let down, frustrated, and unheard.
The importance of human connections are far reaching and diverse. It is impossible for us to know what another person is feeling. It is even more challenging to understand what they might be dealing with in their own lives. Kindness and courtesy travel just as fast through a society as anger and frustration do. I prefer to go out into the world, looking out for one another. And oh the places I have gone because I allow myself to connect with people along the way.
Thank you Alex, for hearing what my heart had to say. I am honored by your words, “But part of her success with Becoming Mrs. Smith is in evoking a world that seems to belong in a Norman Rockwell painting – complete with all of that artist’s wry, as well, as sentimental, observational touches.” You can be certain that I will be uplifted by them and continue to spread hope and joy this holiday season.